Hey, it’s Anon!

We’re back with another issue of the Weekly Confessional. 

The place where couples and wedding vendors come to vent their frustrations about everything weddings, relationships, and life.

This issue is all about Bridal Parties and the uninvited BS that comes along with making 24 of your best friends dress alike and follow you around all day!

Everyone loves a good bridal party drama story - and we have 3 juicy ones for you this week!

Let’s go! 🥳

I’m getting married in 3 weeks and we’re not having a wedding party!

It’s been so much less stressful with only having to worry about the opinion of my fiancé and I.

No wedding party drama.

No need to worry about people’s schedules or finances.

No need for a rehearsal dinner because we’re not having a rehearsal (just fiancé and I doing a quick walk-through with the venue coordinator a few days before).

Vendors are always a bit taken aback when I say no wedding party but they’re never rude, just surprised, and when I explain my reasoning they totally get it.

I regret having had a bridal party some days.

It’s exhausting.

Dealing with everyone’s hidden preferences, which only come out AFTER you’ve made a decision REGARDLESS of how clearly you asked for feedback earlier on and this will happen FOR EVERY SINGLE DECISION.

I only had 2 bridal attendants - MOH and BM and the BM was on holiday for the 4 months prior to the wedding so wasn’t around for any pre-wedding events or to help with anything.

I asked both attendants several times, point blank if they had any preferences for their dresses. Both said no.

When I picked a dress, the holidaying bridesmaid took long enough to provide her commentary that the MOH had already ordered her dress BUT the bridesmaid didn’t like the dress and wanted to order a different cut in the same color.

She disliked the chosen one enough that she wouldn’t wear it. So my vision of having matching bridesmaids because there are only two of them is done because MOH’s dress is on its way and it’s too late to wait for a return and order a new dress.

Even though I sent my MOH $200 to rent a suit for her stepson, she ended up getting him a really unsuitably casual outfit (the men are in tuxedos) from a kids store and I’m just too exhausted to start an argument about it. Whatever.

The more people you involve, directly or indirectly, the worse it gets.

My MOH recently became a person I dislike.

She is very negative, talks badly about other friends, and criticizes everybody. I have been seeing this behavior but decided to ignore it.

Recently, I found out from another friend that she was talking behind my back with other friends about me.

I basically planned my entire bachelorette because she said it was too much work and she suffers from anxiety so I took all the planning and did everything which I am okay with, I never complained or even talked behind her back about it.

I happily did everything and she only focused on the decor! She made fun of me with other friends saying I was a control freak because I made an itinerary and asked for matching outfits (literally Jean shorts and a band shirt).

I am extremely disappointed to find out that she has so much to say about me, instead of just being honest.

The worst part is that she makes her comments to others in a very mean way (I saw the messages she sent to my other friend).

Also during my bachelorette, she treated me badly and she would mock me saying things like “I am the bride, everybody needs to do what I say”.

To top off, at the bed of my bachelorette weekend my friends asked her to give a speech and all she said was that she had a lot of fun and loved all the girls she got to meet and hang out with. At no point she say anything about me.

I talked to her after and she said it was all on my mind and she did not know what to do or say. She said that I was selfish making everything about myself. I asked how she thought I could do things better or what things should I improve. She said “I don’t know what to say” so she even could not give me a reason or examples of how I was being selfish.

Not to defend myself but I have been nothing but flexible and I always think about others.

I ended up crying my entire flight from my bachelorette and cried for like 2 days trying to figure out what I am doing wrong.

At this point, I truly don’t want her to be my MOH. She just seems fake to me and I am disappointed at the person she is.

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